Toddler Tuesday

Thanksgiving is around the corner and this is usually the time when we come together and take inventory of all the things we are thankful for. Lately, I've had so many things on my mind that I really haven't sat down to write all that I am thankful for.

So, I am just going to "unload" so that I can get this off my chest and move on....

The other day, there was an article about an Adoptive Family that suspended their adoption because they suspected fraud. The adoptive community responded with mixed reviews. And those mixed reviews tugged on my heart and this is what I shared with a friend of mine...

But this is what I really came up with... I believe that God brings children into your family not only by biology but also through adoption. If there is corruption, fraud, and illegal activities (all things which go against God's character) and we KNOW about it and do nothing (if you know to do good and don't do it; it's sin), then we are taking the place of God who chose a family for this child -- which isn't us, as hard as that is to swallow -- and we are becoming mini-gods.

I think what comes to the surface here is our own insecurity. I know that I would prefer to have my heart gouged out with a plastic knife than for the US marshalls to show up at my doorstep and tell me that there has been an investigation in my adoption and it has been nullified and they are here to take Alberto. (yeah, I watch a lot of TV and movies).

I can't imagine the struggle that family went through to do the "right" thing when they had their dream of being parents within their grasp. This is truly showing that they are the child's parent -- or have loved the child with the love of a parent -- because they cared more for the integrity of the child than to fulfill their own need or desire to be parents.

I would like to say I would show the same integrity that the family showed. I suppose one only knows when they actually walk in their shoes what it is. However, I would have a very very hard time living with myself knowing that there was a woman out there who thought her child was dead or whose child was taken from her; longing for that child. All so that I could be a mom?

We rationalize things by thinking that the child would have a "better" life with us -- because doors would be open to that child that would not be other wise opened. No one wants to take someone elses child. But I think it's stories like these and our responses that show our insecurities and our hidden fears.

My heart goes out to this family, the decision they made, and some of the negative consequences. My hope and prayer is that the CNA and Jaime Tecu will take all of this into consideration and if the child's birthfamily is not located that this family will be legally and officially united with the child.

Okay....I feel better.